doing things for you

Lately, i have fully realised the importance of trying to make yourself happy and not being okay with settling for less than you deserve.

there is a big ideal that society pushes on people to make them feel like they need to fit a mould in order to be liked or to be accepted.

i have found that this ideal is not for everyone. we are all different and that’s what makes us all special. we don’t have to change how we look or how much we weigh or how we act because of what other people say or think. however, i believe that if we want to change, that should also be accepted and should not be constantly blamed on the pressures of society.

as well as trying to help people to be happy with the person they are now, people should have the support and encouragement they need to become the person they are happy want to be; the person they are happy as, as long as that is good for their health.

happiness is a breath of fresh air for most people and there is nothing better than being happy and comfortable with yourself. it benefits you emotionally and physically and helps you to feel confident and to be unafraid to be who you really are.

some things i have learnt are not to pretend to be someone you aren’t and also if you’re not happy with something that you can change, do something about it!

if you pretend to be someone you’re not to impress someone, a guy, for example, chances are it’ll end up in you feeling quite conflicted. situations like that are difficult because you feel trapped, as if you always have to be careful not to say or do the wrong thing and also it’s nice to know that someone loves you for who you are and not who you pretend to be.

i bet that person would love you even more if they knew the real you and everything would be far more comfortable.

i guess the point of this post is that if you’re unhappy, you should make an effort to change the reason why if it is possible. for example, if you don’t like the way your stomach looks, go do some ab workouts! don’t do something that makes you miserable to please someone else. don’t get me wrong, it’s good to think of others before yourself but there is a limit.

i hope this has been helpful and has made you think about yourself and how happy you are with yourself as an individual. if you’re not, it can’t hurt to try and make a difference.

traditions

now that it is December, I’m starting to get really excited about traditions. in my family, we mostly have traditions for Christmas Eve which include my parents dressing up as Santa and Mrs Claus and giving us new pjamas to wake up in on Christmas morning.
yeah, that may sound kind of weird for a 15 and a 23 year old to sit on their dads (santa’s) lap but we’ve been doing it for as long as I can remember so it’s something we just have to do every Christmas.
we also make sure we watch the Santa Claus movies because they are, in my opinion, probably the best Christmas movies out there.
i guess what the point of this post is to say how important traditions are and how special they can make a holiday.
I really can’t wait to make my own traditions when Im older because they’ve been so important to me as I grew up.
most families have little traditions that they do for various events or seasons and for some that may seem weird but when you have something like that, every time it comes around you get excited and happy.
my two favourite things about Christmas are music and traditions because they just add the cherry on top of an exciting day that I get to spend with family.

on that note, my favourite Christmas song at the moment is:
winter wonderland/ don’t worry be happy by pentatonix ft tori kelly
make sure you go check it out because they are so talented and it is just really festive and fun.

rejection

if you didn’t know, I really enjoy musical theatre, this means I have to deal with rejection a lot. in this industry it is really important that you try not to let things bother you, like when someone dislikes your voice or something about you or even just decides you aren’t right for a role. it is good to try and move on without being put off or giving up.

however, things like these aren’t the only times in life that we can feel rejected because, of course, not everyone is interested in that kind of thing. some examples of these can be when you are looking for a job or even when you want to enter into a relationship and the other person doesn’t feel the same way. whatever the situation, rejection makes us feel pretty crap, and that’s okay because we’re human and no one expects us to just brush it off and move on straight away. if we feel passionate about something then it obviously is important to us and when someone moves on straight away after trying to achieve something, it shows it can’t have meant that much in the first place.

it is important to remember that there is a right place and time for everything and everyone gets a fair shot at life. if something doesn’t turn out the way we want that probably means there is something even more beneficial and exciting round the corner.

I know that I have dealt with rejection a lot, both through performing and through other aspects of life and I know I can’t say that I can now move on easily straight away, it’s still frustrating and I still get upset, but I have learnt that all things happen for a reason and I should just wait it out and try again and never even consider giving up. if I did, I would be depriving myself of my potential and all my hard work would have been for nothing.

I hope this can help some people who feel rejected and like they’re missing out on the only thing they want to do. there is most probably something new round the corner, never give up because that means you are depriving yourself and the world of all that you have to offer.

getting away

the other day I went to a little place between Whitby and Scarborough called Robin hoods bay for my dad to do a charity bike ride.
at first, I didn’t really want to go because it would mean missing a day of school and I couldn’t be bothered to miss it (I know, that makes no sense) but I was persuaded and I actually am glad that I was. while I was there, I realised how good it feels to get away from all the urgency and busy-ness of life and to escape to somewhere different and calm.
the hotel wait was surreal to wake up to a view of the sea because it was as if I had forgotten something so magnificent existed. each morning I would wake up and look out the window and be stunned by the view.

it was also a get away that included a few firsts for me. for example, I decided to try being a vegetarian and I had to go to numerous restaurants avoiding my usual safe option of a burger and resisting a full English every morning. despite everything, it wasn’t that difficult and I’m glad I tried it during that time because I had lots of tasty dishes I wouldn’t have dared to try before.
I also fell in love with the decaf coffee in the room. i had never tried actual coffee before, only lattes and cappuccinos so it was a real change, but a good one.
overall the get away was very rewarding and I think when you are feeling stressed or overwhelmed, that is the best thing to do. see some new things, breathe some new air and I guarantee you will feel better.

excited for autumn

don’t you think its strange how some people get really hyped up about something whereas others may be oblivious or may even feel the complete opposite way. in a way, its natural to all have different likes and dislikes and …