Lately, i have fully realised the importance of trying to make yourself happy and not being okay with settling for less than you deserve.
there is a big ideal that society pushes on people to make them feel like they need to fit a mould in order to be liked or to be accepted.
i have found that this ideal is not for everyone. we are all different and that’s what makes us all special. we don’t have to change how we look or how much we weigh or how we act because of what other people say or think. however, i believe that if we want to change, that should also be accepted and should not be constantly blamed on the pressures of society.
as well as trying to help people to be happy with the person they are now, people should have the support and encouragement they need to become the person they are happy want to be; the person they are happy as, as long as that is good for their health.
happiness is a breath of fresh air for most people and there is nothing better than being happy and comfortable with yourself. it benefits you emotionally and physically and helps you to feel confident and to be unafraid to be who you really are.
some things i have learnt are not to pretend to be someone you aren’t and also if you’re not happy with something that you can change, do something about it!
if you pretend to be someone you’re not to impress someone, a guy, for example, chances are it’ll end up in you feeling quite conflicted. situations like that are difficult because you feel trapped, as if you always have to be careful not to say or do the wrong thing and also it’s nice to know that someone loves you for who you are and not who you pretend to be.
i bet that person would love you even more if they knew the real you and everything would be far more comfortable.
i guess the point of this post is that if you’re unhappy, you should make an effort to change the reason why if it is possible. for example, if you don’t like the way your stomach looks, go do some ab workouts! don’t do something that makes you miserable to please someone else. don’t get me wrong, it’s good to think of others before yourself but there is a limit.
i hope this has been helpful and has made you think about yourself and how happy you are with yourself as an individual. if you’re not, it can’t hurt to try and make a difference.
Lucy Jones 